A while after moving away from the city and my go-getter lifestyle I noticed that I was just so much more content and happy. In trying to analyse why this was so
as I have a tendency to do I decided to mentally plot my happiness scale on a daily basis.
I came to an answer rather rapidly when I discovered that the days where I did something with my hands (besides typing on a keyboard) were the days when, at the end of the day, were my most satisfying. I believe it may have something to do with the creative process as producing something from the manual labour was a little more satisfying than when I was doing cleaning for instance, although, I must say, much to my surprise, I get satisfaction and happiness from doing menial cleaning chores too (shock-horror!)
This discovery was a huge eye-opener to me and just when I was ready to start writing a thesis on it – my path to instant fame and fortune, I discovered much to my chagrin, that everyone already knows this. People have been saying this for years, I have probably been told this exact thing and blocked it out of my brain because I
am was a physically lazy person. I used to love thinking jobs – stuff where I used my brain extensively but didn’t have to lift a finger work up a sweat. I still love thinking and I consider my brain my favorite asset, however, finding quiet spaces in my days where I can just look and see and be, are becoming really special to me.
Past: BUSY MIND – LAZY BODY = SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS
Now: SLOWER MIND – BUSY BODY = A CONTENTED HAPPINESS
What stuns me about this whole issue is that I was so sure that the masses of information I have acquired over the years, and all the wonderful and marvelous things my brain could do, was my saving grace – I was/am proud of my knowledge and perceived wisdom. I saw myself as dynamic and bright (most days) and ready to go out and conquer the world. I felt sorry for people who lived slow simple lives.
I now realise how fickle I was and I am embarrassed about how I bulldozed across the planet thinking the world was waiting for me.
I am still exploring gentle living. I am slowing myself down. I am getting rid of stuff. I am trying to make less impact on our planet. I am trying to listen more and say less. I “do” and “be” more and think less. I am hopefully becoming more humble. I am spending as much time as possible in nature as it gives me peace. I am trying to live a slow simple life.
I still mess up everyday – my motor mouth lets me down all the time. But I will persevere. Because it makes me so very happy.
- Want Happiness? Practice Kindness (psychologytoday.com)
- Less bling, more bliss (theglobeandmail.com)
- What is true Happiness? (prophet666.com)
- 3 Happiness Habits for the Mind – MSN Health & Fitness (health.msn.com)